Accept and Adjust

Mastermind Weekend 1/16

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I'm Tina

I’m the owner of Carrots ‘N’ Cake as well as a Certified Nutrition Coach and Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner (FDN-P). I use macros and functional nutrition to help women find balance within their diets while achieving their body composition goals.


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Anytime Mal and I struggle in life, we always remind each other of something his Grandma used to say: accept and adjust. I’ve blogged about these words a few times in the past, but when it comes to health issues, they mean so much more.

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My own grandfather had a similar piece of advice when things don’t go your way: life is not fair. Basically, you can get all bent out of shape and dwell on the crappy things that happen to you or you can change your attitude and roll with it. Obviously, I’m going with the second one for this colitis stuff.

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Things are different for me with UC this time. In the past, I didn’t want to accept it. I didn’t want to accept I had the disease and I really didn’t want to accept it was something I would need to deal with for the rest of my life. And, of course, as I explained yesterday, I didn’t want to accept that some of my favorite things in life (iced coffee, beer, dessert) were possible culprits in making me sick. With that said, I accept that I have Ulcerative Colitis and I’m ready to adjust.


Check out what was part of my breakfast this morning! It’s not iced coffee!

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I accepted I can’t have iced coffee and I adjusted.

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A reader left a comment on CNC yesterday saying that her husband, who also suffers from UC, drinks Choffy since it’s more friendly on his digestive system. (Choffy is brewed chocolate made from cacao beans.) I had a bag of Choffy in our cabinet from many months ago, so I brewed a batch yesterday afternoon.

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I chilled it overnight (obviously), so this morning, I poured it over ice and added almond milk.

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I’m happy to report it’s almost as delicious as iced coffee. Choffy has a rich, dark chocolate flavor, so it’s different than coffee, but a great substitute. I drank it around 7:00 this morning and haven’t had any issues so far. It could be a keeper!

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To eat, I whipped up a batch of cold “Oatmeal” Minus the Oats, which I made last night and then chilled in the refrigerator in a nearly-empty jar of cashew butter. All I had to do was open it up, grab a spoon, and eat it this morning.

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In the mix:

  • 1 tbsp ground flaxseed
  • 1/2 tsp cinnamon
  • 1 banana, mashed
  • 1/3 cup grated zucchini
  • 3/4 cup liquid egg whites
  • 1/2 cup unsweetened almond milk
  • 1/4 tsp vanilla extract

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Last night’s dinner was ugly and boring, so I’ll add it here at the end of this post. I had a piece of grilled sirloin steak and roasted zucchini with truffle oil, salt, and pepper.

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Question of the Day

What’s the best piece of advice you’ve received from your grandparents?



  1. My Nana always used to say “Plan your work, work your plan.” She was big on being prepared for anything and everything. It sounds like you have some great sage advice – you’ll get through the UC – it’s all about planning your adjustments and following through.

  2. Finding out that you have a health problem that will be with you for life is NEVER easy. Frankly, it straight up sucks. So it’s great how you’re willing to adjust and look on the bright side. And while your favorites may not be the best for your colon, they still can be occasional treats. You’ll just have to once again re-define your version of balance.
    Keep your chin up and focus on all the great stuff you can still eat by the boatload.

  3. From my mom: Sometimes you just have to do what you do want to. This is true and in the end whatever it is usually doesn’t end up being a big deal so just do it and don’t complain or worry about it.

    I’m sure you’ve done your research but with my tummy issues I can’t have any amount of flax. Hopefully it doesn’t bother you.

  4. Those are great words to live by! I myself am going through some sort of stomach issue and I’m not quite sure what it is. I’m also trying to cut back on some of my favorite things (yogurt being one of them) until I find out what it is. Instead of being annoyed, I’m just trying to accept it and get better. It helps me to know that once I get better I will be able to enjoy the things I love in moderation.

  5. Good Morning~ I am so sorry to hear about your tummy issues~ I so know it is not fun!! I had it last year, cut our all gluten and it has made all the difference!!

    I do have a questions~ Back from your post awhile back about carbs and cutting back a bit on them do you have an estimate on how many you consumed a day? I work out quite a bit too and kind of have been following the Paleo a bit and lately have been a bit fatigued. I know alot of things can cause that but someone had suggested not getting enough carbs. So I was wondering how many you really think you need in a day?

    THank you,

  6. Ahh. So happy you found a good iced coffee alternative!!! My grandma was always telling me to relax and enjoy life. And drink coffee. She was appalled that my husband, Kevin was not a fan of coffee. She wanted him to learn to like it before we got married!! Haha.

  7. My grandfather didn’t so much say it, but I learned so much from watching him. When life isn’t as you expect you preserver and push forward. He had Parkinson’s disease and could barely walk some days, yet he never stopped. He would sit in his shed all day fixing old lawn mowers and vacuum cleaners he found on the road to help his coordination. Sometimes I would watch as it would take 10 minutes just to screw one bolt, but he never complained… just kept working until he got it. That’s what he taught me, and I think of him every day when I want to take a short cut or give up.

  8. So glad that the choffy worked for you! These are both great things to remember…I love the accept and adjust. 🙂 So true! I think back on how many things I just wouldn’t accept and stayed miserable. Once you accept the situation, you are able to see what you can do to adjust to it.
    Great post!

  9. One of the things I admire most about my grandmother is that she never ever worries about anything. She always tells me that God has a plan bigger than we can see and we just have to go with the flow, make the best of our situation, and look at the positives. She often reminds me that worrying won’t help me get anywhere in life!

  10. Tina love this post! One of the things my mom used to always say to my sister and I was that everything is not always fair! I know you can handle this and I think that in the long you will find out how to balance this! I definitely relate to where you’re at though. When I was first diagnosed with Celiac I didn’t quite want to accept all the changes I would to make, but slowly came to terms with them and know in the long run it is ten times better for my health!

  11. Great attitude! We can’t control what happens to us, we can only control how we react to them. It sounds like you are taking great care of yourself and being easy on yourself. That’s very inspirational!

  12. Tina, you are such an inspiration. Looking at you, I realize how whiny I can be over the little things that aren’t a big deal, and you’re over here pushing through and having a positive attitude towards changing you’re entire lifestyle. Thank you so much for you’re outlook!

  13. Be positive, Life is not always be like what we want, but we can learn from it. Setbacks make us become more stronger!When life close a door , it will also open a door for you!

    1. @christine: see~~ you can’t have ice coffee, but you find another new tasty drink!! 🙂 sometimes changing is good thing for us! just likes exploring your new favorite food!

  14. That’s a good approach to keep in mind, Tina, as you face these dietary adjustments. The best part? It’s just a dietary change. It’ll suck having to order salads at a bar or brew up a pot of choffee instead of iced coffee, but at least it’s not having to adjust to life in a wheelchair or life with a prosthetic limb. I can’t even imagine what some people have to give up and/or accept when they find themselves with a much more serious issue. The fact that you’ll never walk again? The prospect of a cancer killing you within a few years? Now that’s something that would take a lot of strength to accept and adjust to. The prospect of cutting beer and fried foods out of your diet? Also sucky…but something that should be a lot less drastic to adjust to.

      1. @Tina: I agree with Faith! It’s all about perspective. There are people out there struggling with a lot worse things. Any change is hard but you will get used to it and be okay! 🙂

  15. I know it’s hard to accept giving up things you love, but you’ve got such a great support system with the blog world! When I get frustrated with my food intolerances I remind myself how lucky I am. If this is the worst thing I’ve had to deal with then I have such a blessed life.

  16. Thanks for posting about Choffy! I have tried to cut way back on coffee and was interested in it as an alternative but it sounds pretty pricey so I’ve been wondering what other people think before I buy some!

  17. I just found your blog and am so sorry for your UC struggle . . . my daughter has UC and is trying to get pregnant…I am concerned about how a pregnancy might make her condition worse. If it’s not too personal (and you may not even be planning to have children) has your doc said anything to you in regards to how UC might interfer with getting pregnant or the outcome of a healthy pregnancy?

    1. @allison:
      Allison, in general women with autoimmune diseases often find their symptoms to reduce or even subside during pregnancy. This is currently thought to be due to the fact that certain elements of the maternal immune system have to be dampened down to prevent any immune cells from inadvertently attacking and destroying the ‘non-self/foreign’ foetus. I would suggest your daughter talk to her gastroenterologist (or better yet if she knows an immunologist!) though if she is concerned, as some of the steroids that are used to treat UC may affect the development of the embryo, so she may need to alter her dose, or cease to take them during her pregnancy. Good luck to her!

  18. My grandmother taught me that you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond. It is an invaluable lesson and saves me from worrying or fretting over things out of my control. Also, my dad’s favorite saying is “this too shall pass.”. It used to bug the crap out of me, but I soon realized it taught me perspective and patience. Whatever “it” is may never truly pass but over time it will become bearable!!

  19. Hi Tina! I feel your pain with the “no iced coffee” change to your diet. Have you ever heard of “Click” protein drinks? They are a protein drink that taste like iced espresso. Could be an option for you if your stomach can handle various protein supplements (like fit mixer).

    Take Care!

  20. Whenever life got tough, my grandmother always said, “Is this the hill you want to die on?” Usually when she asked, I was having issues with someone, but I think it could go for personal problems, too. I suppose ask yourself, so I want to let this go and just deal later or do I want to face it head on? I’m glad your taking charge of your UC and wish you the best. I’m also glad you found a coffee substitute. I’ve also heard that Dandelion Tea is a good coffee sub, but I’m not sure what the effects would be on your UC.

  21. My grandmother always said “If you eat something just to finish it, you are still throwing it away. Save it or share it with someone else”.

  22. Oh my gosh, Tina, this post just made my day! Last year I developed an allergy to coffee and have missed it so much. Thanks so much for sharing your new find! I’m sorry that you have to deal with this and even need an alternative, but again, thanks for the tip!

  23. When I got dumped by my high school boyfriend and first love, my Grandmother told me that the key to getting through a tough time is to “Say ‘yes’ to everything”. Its true that when you’re dealing with something the worst thing to do is to sit around by yourself, giving it time to resonate in your mind and over think things to the point of making yourself upset. Staying busy and active and being around people will keep your mind off of the issue, and will put you in a better mood. I always remember when she told me that to this day. Grandparents give the best advice! So wise 🙂

  24. I love advice from grandparents. My grandmother had similar advice:

    “Everyday is not a holiday, Christine” is what she always used to tell me. haha.

  25. this post, and a few from the past few days, have been so inspirational! you have such a great attitude towards UC – accepting it and doing the best you can is definitely going to make the difference!

    it makes me realize how much i take my health for granted – and that is something i should NOT take for granted at all!!

  26. My grandma always says “eat what you want!” she’ll have a snickers bar for lunch sometimes…. she really taught me to give into certain cravings and just listen to what your body wants — although I don’t think I could have a snickers bar and glass of milk as my lunch 😉

  27. Unbeknownst to you, “Carrots n Cake” is a site that I follow daily to keep me for a healthier lifestyle. You have made a big difference with the choices I make before eating each meal and snack.

    I know you’ll do the same with the new path you are following for UC, with Mal and Murphy by your side.

    I hope my pug painting puts a smile on your face. It’s a small way for me to say “thank you” for making such a positive difference in my life.
    Art e-gallery link –

  28. When you use up your Choffy you may try roasted barley (I found it on sale in the USA under the name RoBarr). Brewed like regular coffee, to me it tastes delicious! It’s very popular in Italy, where all cafés serve it alongside espresso.

      1. @Tina: If you’ve got an espresso machine, it works perfectly. Just remember to fill up the filter to 3/4 of the max capacity

  29. Have you tried Teeccino? Its basically coffee flavored tea that comes in all different flavors! It’s non-acidic and gluten free! I love it. I have GERD and am symptom free ever since switching to it. Im not sure if it would help you out with what you have, but I thought I’d throw it out there for anyone else!

  30. Hi Tina. I don’t have UC but I have C-Diff a really intense intestine condition I developed after being on antibiotics almost 2 years ago. I’ll deal with it the rest of my life too.

    Reading this post was so awesome for me because for the first year to year in a half I was in total denial about my health and my symptoms. I finally became fed up earlier this year and have started significantly changing my diet. It’s so hard and so frustrating. So many of my favorite foods are the ones that affect me the most.

    Hearing about how you’re dealing with your condition makes me feel so much better and motivated to keep up with my own attempts. Thanks!!!

  31. great advice and so true too. sometimes you have to just adjust to what life hands you. it sounds like you’re staying super positive which is great!

  32. My father’s mom always said “sh*t, or get off the pot”. I let myself that every time I can’t make up my mind on something.

  33. Hi Tina! I’m sorry to hear that you can’t drink coffee anymore. I’m happy that you’re choosing health over tastebuds though lol I’ve never tried Choffy but I definitely will after reading this!

    Anyways, about a year ago I started drinking Teeccino after work to fulfill my cravings for coffee and truthfully, it really hits the spot (iced is yummy too). It’s a blend of fruits, nuts, grains and herbs that is super yummy and tastes very similar to coffee – I especially like it because it has a similar texture and mouthfeel. Here’s their site:

    Good luck with everything and I hope you don’t have many more flare-ups!

  34. Great post, Tina. just a word here–not sure if this is even relevant–but there was a 60 minutes report on truffles and how 90 percent of them are another type of truffle which is low quality/dong. I see you use a lot of it, and I’m wondering if that might also be upsetting things for you?

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