As you can imagine, as a blogger, I receive all sorts of judgment about my life and what I share on the Internet. Now that I’m a mom, I get even more of it. I realize most parents experience this same sort of judgment at one point or another, and we know how hard it can be. At a recent Mom 2.0 blogger conference, Similac asked parents about the challenge of being judged. Watch the video below to see what moms had to say about their experiences and challenges.
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
Even celebrity moms experience this same kind of judgement. That’s why, Hilary and Haylie Duff recently partnered with The Sisterhood of Motherhood as they are both firm believers in ending the “mommy wars” and have expressed opinions on parental judgment that align perfectly with the campaign.
In the past, I’ve discussed various topics related to motherhood on CNC, especially those associated with The Sisterhood of Motherhood. Now the brand is asking me to take this one step further by sharing a personal experience when I was judged as a parent and something I will do to help end the “mommy wars.”
My experience actually happened on a blog post about celebrating my first Mother’s Day. I wrote about how Quinn and I enjoyed a fun class at My Gym and then shared a photo of the two of us.
A comment that I received on my post was quite judgmental: “Quinn should be wearing socks, shoes, and a jacket! Really, the way you care for your son is so questionable”¦.”
The comment really surprised me. It also hurt my feelings, but I assumed the reader just didn’t know the whole story and made an assumption, so I replied, hoping to clear things up: “Quinn was dressed perfectly for our class at My Gym. The babies have to be in bare feet to prevent slipping since many of them are just learning to walk. It was also in the 70s here yesterday, so he didn’t need a jacket.”
I think a lot of what happens when it comes to the “mommy wars” is simple misunderstandings between moms. What one mom does might seem “wrong” to another because they assume it won’t work for their child or yours, but they don’t know the whole story. As moms, if we make it a priority to communicate with one another and explain how and why we chose to parent our child(ren) the way we do, maybe it will put a stop to the “mommy wars.” Hopefully, keeping these lines of communication open will help us all become better parents.
Question of the Day
Moms: Share a time that you experienced judgment and how you responded.
Commit to #SisterhoodUnite and share your personal story about your challenges overcoming judgment, and the one thing you will do to help end the mommy wars on Similac’s Facebook Page.