Mostly We Don’t Remember The Days; We Remember The Moments

Mastermind Weekend 1/16

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It’s never a dull day in the Haupert house!

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I live with the two biggest clowns ever.

So, I haven’t been totally truthful with you guys about my life lately. Not because I have something to hide, but after my ex passed away last summer, I’ve been hesitant to share the really personal details of my life. But, at my grandfather’s funeral on Monday morning, our priest used his sermon to emphasize that every moment of life is precious, and I wanted to remind us all of that.

Last Thursday morning, my grandfather passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly. He was only 81 years old and in good health. He still shoveled snow and mowed the lawn, he was constantly taking on new home improvement projects, and worked his part-time job of assessing houses. He was happy, healthy, and full of life. Even on the morning of his death, my Grampie woke up, drank his coffee, and read the sports section of the newspaper like he normally would. But, God had other plans for him, and he suffered a massive heart attack that he didn’t survive.

In the past 5 months, Mal and I have lost 4 people close to us, which has completely changed our perspective on life and living. Life is too short to be anything but happy and grateful. Today, please tell your family that you love them, hold your children tight, give your friends an extra hug (the next time you see them), and treasure every moment. You never know what’s going to happen, and God may choose to take away someone you love earlier than expected. The words just aren’t coming together for me this morning, but the point of this post is to remind you how precious and uncertain life truly is.

Sorry to give Friday such a sentimental start, but it’s something I’ve been wanting to share with you guys, and I think it’s a really important reminder for all of us. Every moment of life is precious.

Dinner

I felt super lazy last night, so I blew off CrossFit. I also didn’t feel like cooking, so I threw together a huge salad, topped with a can of tuna mixed with TJ’s salad, roasted Brussels sprouts, green olives, and balsamic vinegar.

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It was a really filling dinner.

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After dinner, I finished off the batch of Cherry-Walnut Almond Flour Cookies. There were five cookies left, and they had no chance against me.

Question of the Day

Tell me about a special moment that you experienced this week!

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168 Comments

  1. Keep your head up miss. Your message is a wonderful one. Life is too short and while I feel like we all “know” that, we really have to make sure that we’re doing the best we can to really appreciate the people in our life on a daily basis.

    My mom was recently diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and it was horrible. After we found out I did everything to can to make sure I called her everyday (sometimes twice a day) and was with her every chance I could get. Then I realized that even though my mom had cancer and we weren’t sure how much longer she has with us…we’re NEVER sure how long ANYONE has with us. You don’t have to be sick to die. So I continue to call her everyday and see her as much as I can, but I also take advantage or every opportunity I have to spend with EVERYONE I love and care about. I also appreciate every phone call, every email, and every text, and I never forget to tell people “I love you”

  2. Tina – I’m sorry for your loss –
    Oddly enough, my grandfather also passed away unexpectedly last Wednesday, and the funeral was Monday – it’s been a hard week, but moments like these bring the family together and help us remember how lucky we are to have each other

  3. I am sorry to hear of your Granfather’s passing. It’s funny how we take things for granted — thank you for reminding me that life is very precious.

  4. I needed to read this…I have been so emotional lately and was just filling out grad applications…ran down into my room shut the lights off and cried…the first thing I did was open your page…a true reminder we can’t get let silly things that don’t matter get the best of us and to value whats truly important. We can’t take life for granted.

  5. So sorry to hear of your loss Tina.
    I couldn’t agree with you more, life is precious and has a way of surprising you when you least expect it! My sympathy goes out to you and your family.
    Thank goodness for the sweet things like your beloved Mal and Murphy 🙂

  6. Tina,
    I’m sorry about your Grandpa! I lost my Grandma last week too and my husband lost his Grandma this past summer. Your blog this morning really hit home. They were the last of our grandparents and the last of my 2 yr old daughter’s great-grandparents which made me sad to think.

    Thank you for your blog. I really love to read it! I too am 5’4″ and I’m always on here to see how you maintain your weight and what you do to lose. Please keep up the great work and thanks again for the great reminder! Please take care.

  7. Tina I am very sorry to read about your Grandfather. I experienced a loss recently. Two weeks ago my family experienced the sudden loss of my 53 year old Uncle. There feels like a gap missing in our extended family, and I know its something that will continue to be felt at Holiday/Birthday/Special gatherings. We are all holding onto the fact that he touched all of our lives and always made us smile. Remember all the wonderful times with your Grandpa- and (whether one believes in an afterlife or not) that he is now one of your Guardian Angels watching out for you & your family.

  8. Sorry for your loss, it’s never easy. The only positive spin I can give you, is that at least he lived his life and moments to the fullest, and didn’t get sick and suffer. Sometimes we all need the reminder to slow down and relish life, so thank you for that.

  9. So sorry for your loss. Will pray for you and your family’s strength during this time. Very true to cherish your loved ones and hold them close while they are still on this earth.

  10. I’m so sorry about your grandfather, Tina… I know how difficult it is to lose one’s grandparents–all of mine have passed, and I still miss them terribly. I agree that we must cherish moments and reflect upon what we have today, not necessarily be constantly fidgeting and eager to look ahead. I think that’s a struggle for most of us, but it’s a really important thing to bear in mind. I hope you are hanging in there and being kind to yourself.
    And, as always, I LOVE seeing adorable pics of Murph. 🙂 Pugs help us get through so much!

  11. My grandma passed away just this morning so this was a very poignant post for me. Thanks for sharing. You don’t want the ones closest to you to be gone and regret not telling them how you special they are to you.

  12. Tina, thank you for sharing. Death is so much part of life. My mother and both of my brothers died within four years. It really effects your life. I’m so glad your grandfather was able to live life right until the end. You have so many precious memories of him that you can cherish the rest of your life.

  13. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I know it’s hard to share these moments on your blog, but honestly I think they are what make it more real. I can understand wanting to stay more mum about things but I think when bloggers try to keep things too close to the chest it can make things seem a little impersonal and even boring after awhile, especially if the focus of the blog is predominantly on that person’s life.

  14. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know how that feels””my grandma, grandpa, and uncle (dad’s brother) died within a year and a half of each other, and it was a very hard time. I am sure they are looking down on you now.

  15. Thanks for sharing. I just recently found your blog and I enjoy it. Continue to pray for strength. Its only when you can pray and prsise through your storm can you appreciate the calm. Be blessed and encouraged!

  16. Tina, I am sorry for your loss. You gave good advice to us all and I couldn’t agree with you more. Go give that sweet Murphy a kiss (I have a Murphy at home too, but mine is a black lab AND a she!) and hang in there. Thanks for sharing, and take care.

  17. I’m really sorry for all of your recent losses, but I think it’s great that you’re sharing them with us. And you couldn’t be more right that we have to treasure & appreciate everybody in our lives because the unexpected can happen at any time & to anyone. I’ll keep you in my thoughts & I hope that you (& Mal) can push through.

    On a lighter note, Murphy looks hilarious in those pictures! I love the way his tongue is peaking out in the first one lol.

    This week a really special moment was when I realized how much one of my best friends is there for me. I’ve been going through a rough time for a while & my friend brought it up to me & is doing whatever she can to help me. It’s a wonderful feeling to hear someone say how much they love & care about you & will do anything to help you, which definitely goes along with your message in this post.

  18. So sorry for your loss. A few years ago I had a year where every other month we were losing someone. It was very painful, but it did remind me to hold my loved ones a bit closer.

  19. Tina, I’m so very sorry to hear about the loss of your grandfather…and you were dealing with this while I’m harping on you about HA (which I sent you an email about) and to not exercise too much…now I feel like a sack of doo-doo…I’m so very sorry Tina.

    You’re so right in that we have to treasure in each and every moment with our loved ones and never take anything/anyone for granted – every moment of life is so very precious. It’s sad that it sometimes takes moments like these to remember this and to put things in perspective but I like to think it’s all a part of God’s plan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Tina….xoxo

  20. Oh Tina, I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know all too well how it feels to lose someone you love so unexpectedly (I lost a sister eight years ago next week). You instantly join a club no one ever wants to be in, but whose members all understand just how hard it can be. There are no words that will heal the pain, but just know you’ve got so many great friends, family and not to mention a hoard of “Internet” friends who feel for you even though you don’t know them. Stay strong, listen to sad music when you want to, and keep cherishing the life you’ve got.

  21. I am so sorry for your loss! We unexpectedly lost my Grandpa in March. He too, got up, had his breakfast and got the paper, and then had a stroke that he died from a week later. It was such a tough time for me and my family because it happened so suddenly. However, during that time, while my whole family was sitting with him in the hospice, we laughed about all the fun times we had with him and all the hilarious things he would say.

    Keep your chin up. Things will get better.

  22. Tina,
    I’m so sorry for your loss.
    The day my papaw died he too got up like normal, had a big breakfast and said he was feeling good. He went outside to make his rounds on his tractor, my dad stopped to talk with him for a bit then we headed off to my dad’s business.. by the time we reached our destination the news was waiting on us when we got there: my papaw had suffered a massive heart attack and died instantly.
    Although it was unexpected it happened quickly and he didn’t suffer. That was in 1999. There was grief and naturally to this day we miss him but we are happy in remembering the good times and funny lil sayings and mannerisims. (I swear he was just like the govenor on Oh Brother Where Art Thou)

    Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

  23. Sorry to hear of your loss Tina! Losing that many people in such a short amount of time can be incredibly emotional and stressful. My 70 something year old healthy grandma suddenly passed of a heart attack when I was in college. And I still think about her all the time. And boy do I miss her pies!! Thinking of you and your family!

  24. I am so sorry for your loss. Put my day into perspective as I am running through the airport complaining about missed and delayed flights.

  25. Awww…Tina…you are an amazing person. I am sorry for your loss, but I will keep your Grandpa and your family in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for this important reminder…I think it’s so easy to get caught up with the petty things in life. You are so right…live each moment to the fullest and tell those you care about that you love them every chance you get. Thanks again…take care!

  26. Thanks for sharing your life with us, Tina. I am so sorry to hear of your family’s loss, but know that the memories you have of your grandfather will continue to bring you pleasure, even when sadness sets in.

    Couldn’t agree more that we need to step up and start appreciating what we have now, as it could all be gone tomorrow. Thanks for the reminder.

  27. Sorry for your loss lately. Unfortunately it is something I can really identify with. In July of 2010, I lost the 3 remaining grandparents I had about 2 weeks apart. Then in November 2010, my father-in-law and my sister’s father-in-law died within 2 days of each other. Very strange year. But honestly at 47, how many people have 3 grandparents? We were very close to all and will miss them very much all because of the opportunity to create so many memories with the time we had.

  28. This week one of my students thanked me for helping him and told me that I was his favorite teacher. He may have said it to all his past teachers too, but after a really demanding week and feeling exhausted, I was touched. As a first-year teacher the best thing I could do is make a positive impact on one of my students’ lives…

  29. I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Thank you for your honesty. My favorite posts are always the ones where people share the important things in life and most importantly, what they are learning from it. It is so easy to forget to be grateful, or to live in the moment, so I definitely appreciate the reminder. I also feel like if you can give someone else a gift, it gives so much light to the sad moments, and reminds me that everything happens for a reason.

  30. So true Tina. Thank you for sharing 🙂 So sad to hear of all the people you two have lost recently. I haven’t lost as many close people as you, but adulthood has felt like several lessons in this for me and I try to remind myself of that all the time.

  31. Thank you for sharing, Tina. I am so sorry to hear about your Grandfather. Your post makes complete sense to me. My dad passed away six years ago today. I was a major daddy’s girl, so it hit me incredibly hard (not that losing either of my parent’s would have been easy). I am also an only child, so I have found myself taking care of my mom much sooner than I expected.

    What’s really important to life comes into such sharp focus in those moments, but I have found that time makes it fuzzy again. There are so many things in life that really don’t matter, when it comes right down to it. I am reminded of that when I think about my dad, and I was reminded of it reading your post. Life is precious, and we need to try hard to hold onto that point.

  32. I’m so sorry about your loss Tina. we’ve lost 4 family members this past year, too, and it’s very true, we must live life and love every day.

  33. Sometimes there’s just too much life to fit into a blog post and I feel like I’m Debbie Downer if I am completely candid with life because like I said, there’s just so much of it, so many things going on.

    So, so, so sorry for your losses. Enjoy your memories, they are a great gift and comfort. Be well, be free.

  34. I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 5 years ago pretty much the same way. We were on vacation at the Outer Banks, NC and the 2nd night in he had a massive heart attack and passed away. His death came 3 months after my grandmother (his mother) passed. I think we attending 4 family funerals that year. When it rains it pours.

    Thank you for sharing.

  35. Big hugs to you and your family, Tina! I am so sorry for your loss. I think we’re similar in that we didn’t have a “dad” so to speak and to me my granddaddy has been it. He’s the same age as your grandfather. I realize every day how precious life is and some days it just has even more meaning. I feel like people may leave us physically, but that they are somehow always with us spiritually. The memories and pictures/videos are precious reminders of the good times we had with our loved ones.

    Just as side note, I appreciate you and your blog. You inspire me in so many ways. From running to seeing what you eat, new exercise ventures to your fun excursions, your precious pug and your husband that seems like a true sweetheart, you help make the world a much better place. Keep doing what you’re doing. You show great dignity and grace even in times of adversity. Be true to yourself and everything else will fall into place.

  36. Tina,
    This is a beautiful post, thank you for sharing! It’s really hard to share such personal hardships, but you really touch the lives of many when you do. My ex passed away 2 months before my wedding to my husband. It was crazy, I felt like I went back in time 3 years to when I was with my ex.
    You are right, you never know what God has planned. I’m so sorry about your Grandfather.
    Take good care, Pam

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