Has a Compliment Ever Changed Your Thinking About Yourself?

Mastermind Weekend 1/16

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I'm Tina

I’m the owner of Carrots ‘N’ Cake as well as a Certified Nutrition Coach and Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner (FDN-P). I use macros and functional nutrition to help women find balance within their diets while achieving their body composition goals.


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Happy Monday!

I started my morning with a quick and simple breakfast: an egg and cheese sandwich on a toasted whole wheat Sandwich Thin with a plum and a glass of iced coffee with vanilla soy milk on the side.

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For the egg, I nuked a Good Food Made Simple egg patty in the microwave. They’re so easy to make”” just toss on a plate and microwave for 90 seconds. Done.

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After breakfast, I hit the gym for a Step & Core class. The first half of class was devoted to heart-pumping step aerobics (I know, I’m so cool), so the instructor really kicked our butts since we only had about 30 minutes. I was dripping sweat by the end. The second half of class was all core work”” crunches and lots of Pilates-type moves. My abs definitely got a good workout.

After class, while I was putting away my equipment, a woman came up to me and told me that I had really nice legs. Her step was set up right behind mine in class, so she noticed them while I was bouncing around in front of her. Her comment was really sweet, but it totally caught me off guard.

In the past, I’ve blogged about how I don’t love the way my legs look, but I still appreciate their awesomeness with regard to their strength, endurance, and ability to run long distances. Her comment actually made me think differently about the appearance of my legs. Maybe they aren’t as burley-looking as I thought? Maybe they do look toned and strong? Maybe I shouldn’t be so hard on myself and just get over my hang-up about my legs? I definitely looked at them differently as I was leaving the gym.

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Question of the Day

Has anyone ever given you a compliment that changed your thinking about yourself?



  1. Yes I can still remember a handful of compliments from even years back that still give me a boost of confidence to this day. I always think of this when I’m debating whether or not to compliment someone because you never know how a few kind words can change someone’s day, or complete outlook about themselves!

  2. It’s kind of funny you posted this because just recently someone gave me the same coimpliment. I’ve always considered my legs skinny/scrawny. Not really self-conscious of them, just not impressed by them either. It was kinda eye-opening to hear a strangers point of view. changed my thinking a bit!

  3. I’m not a fan of my own legs, so I get it.

    One day when I was on a hike, I walked past a couple and unbeknownst to them, i could hear their conversation and this woman said, “now that’s the body I wish I could have.” Wow, what a nice thing to say!

  4. I’ve never in my life received a compliment from a stranger, so no. But, age has helped me accept my flaws. I used to hate my legs, and now I just don’t care anymore. I know what my legs are capable off, and that’s all that really matters. I’ll never have long, skinny legs and nice calves, but I can run a half marathon faster than most people I know. Good enough for me!

  5. I used to HATE my hair and want to either die it black and cut it into a sleek bob or make it red and curly. Then one day I was getting a haircut and I heard a woman tell her stylist that she wanted to dye her hair my color. I was shocked, but ever since then I’ve really come to appreciate my natural color.
    I think those unexpected compliments are so powerful, because they really show us how hard we’re being on ourselves.

  6. Just investigated a few quick pics of your legs, and BURLY would NOT be the word used to describe them!! Definitely strong, but totally rocking.

    I used to be a little self-conscious of both my height and my curvier body. But a friend of mine saw me in a towel one time and was like “Wow, you look like a Greek goddess.” Talk about ego boost!! Now, I try to get invited to as many toga parties as possible (well…. not really, but I stand a little straighter and prouder.)

  7. I am always hating on my legs! I’ve wished they were thinner. But a few weeks ago I was in a yoga class and the teacher complimented me on my steady dancer pose, and I thought, these babies might not be the most svelte, but I guess they hold me up pretty well!

  8. I’ve noticed that I’m much harder on myself about body image things than when I look at others. It’s always so awesome when someone compliments you on something you don’t really like. Those eggs look super yummy. I don’t think I’ve ever seen them in my local grocery stores.

  9. I was having a conversation with a friend of a friend and we got on the topic of losing weight after college. I told her that I dropped a bit after I reduced my soda intake and she replied back saying, “oh so you’re like xxxlbs now?” which was much less than what I actually weigh. I realized even though I think my frame could use a few less pounds, someone else may perceive it as much smaller than it is! 🙂

  10. Those egg patties are amazing! I’ll have to try those!
    The biggest compliment I ever received was just a few weeks ago when a girl I just met asked if I was a runner because I had a runners body. I’ve been running for 15 years, but I’ve never had a runners build, regardless of the miles I’ve logged in. I still feel great about that compliment 🙂

  11. Receiving a compliment from a stranger is such a nice and genuine occurrence. When someone I know compliments me, theres always a doubt about whether they actually mean it. With a stranger, he/she wouldn’t bother commenting if it wasnt true!

  12. I am getting better at accepting compliments, since i was overweight a good portion of my teenage years now that I am in shape when someone calls me skinny or commends me for my lifestyle change its still kinda hard to believe them as I still kinda feel like the bigger girl on the inside.

    I am glad you got a compliment though I’ve always thought you looked great in all the pics that you post and find your blog to be one of my fav’s for motivation and inspiration 🙂

  13. I’m getting better at accepting compliments…still hard for me at times because of my own insecurities. But one time, I heard “second hand” that someone who I think looks really good said I had a “beautiful body” and that was a huge confidence booster!

  14. Aww what a nice compliment! I second Tracy’s comment above about thinking you have great legs anyway. 😉 Compliments don’t always make me think differently about myself, but they do make me feel confident and can totally make my day, even little ones! I used to brush them off but have learned to be more accepting of them over time.

  15. I think we all tend to be a little bit harder on ourselves than we need to be. I always look at my legs and see curvy thighs and cellulite on my butt. But every time I see my mom, she always comments on how running has helped me develop a lot of muscle definition on my legs. Other people are much more willing to see the positive, and I think we’re often much more willing to see the negative in ourselves. Sometimes I try to look at my body from someone else’s perspective if I feel like I’m being too hard on myself.

  16. Wahoo!! Nice legs are a great compliment and commodity 😉

    I like compliments, yes, but sometimes I don’t believe them. WHich is stupid, I know. Sometimes I do though, I guess it is the frame of mind I am in at the time. One time someone told me I had an amazing smile….which I had no idea I did. But then my husband fell in love with me (when we had just met) because of many things, but my smile was one that stood out to him (he says) 😉

  17. I never know quite what to say when someone gives me a compliment. But I say embrace it – most of the time people really blow what is a perceived ‘fault’ out of proportion. I try to remember the fact that someone in the world will find what you think is lacking as a great asset.

    I recently got a compliment on the color of my eyes which was very nice but they just look plain old blue to me 🙂

  18. It wasn’t so much a single compliment, but a comment about how I was never able to accept compliments. My ex always called me pretty, gorgeous, etc…but my eating disorder prevented me from truly accepting it. He finally asked me why I never believed him when he told me I was pretty, and that there was nothing wrong with being proud of my body. It totally changed my perspective on how I saw myself!

  19. I had an awesome comment just this morning from my mom. She called me a great cook. I’ve never thought of myself as a great cook just becuase I like simple recipes – nothing fancy. Anyways, hearing her say that (as someone who I think is a great cook) really made my day! Made me think “hmm…maybe I am!” 🙂

  20. dont you love it when that happens?! especially coming from a complete stranger, it must mean they really mean it! oh and this is creepy but i had to check out your legs (duh)-and not sure what you are talking about-they’re fabulous! 🙂

  21. I think complimenting others is so unfortunately rare. I mean, compliments are motivating and encouraging! Didn’t that compliment just make your day!? 🙂

    You DO have great legs Tina… I’m sure there are many folks out there that dream of legs that would take them as miles as yours have taken you 🙂 You put a lot of hard work into your body. A compliment WELL deserved!

    This is not on the same scale but I have always thought my eyebrows were just messy and wild… my boyfriend LOVES them. He said that was one of the first things about me that attracted him. I have definitely embraced my eyebrows now!

  22. This is funny that you’re talking about compliments today, because on my morning walk with my dog this AM someone told me I look like Paris Hilton. I was just thinking how I so did NOT take it as a compliment, and I’m wondering if the guy thought I would. And then I read your blog! haha

    But I’ve had the same exact thing happen with my legs… and I have to agree, it does make you say, hey, they are kind of toned and muscular and not all that bad!

  23. Yes a compliment has definitely changed that way I think about myself. I’ve been told that I have a smile which reminds me to smile more often! And I’ve been told I have nice legs too and it really changed that way I look at them 🙂

  24. Although I can be shy and sometimes feel embarrassed by compliments, they really do feel great. Lately I have really loved hearing people tell me I “look great”. I’ve been working hard to lose the weight I put on during and after college and people are noticing. It’s always nice to know that my effort is paying off. 🙂

  25. I used to be really embarrased about my teeth growing up. When I met my boyfriend (now husband) he always said his favorite feature of mine was my smile… it really started changing the way I thought about my teeth… Now I love my smile (which includes me showing off my big(ger) teeth). 😀

  26. I used to hate my shoulders and thought they were kind of broad for my petite frame. Recently, my husband told me that he loves my shoulders and thinks they’re sexy. Let’s just say that I’ve been wearing a lot of outfits lately that show them off. 😉

  27. I distinctly remember in 5th grade when my best friend at the time (and the most athletic girl in our class) described ME as “athletic.” I had never viewed myself that way before, but definitely do now. I think the fact she saw me as that way gave me a little push of confidence to become more athletic.

  28. Before I met my husband, I always wore shirts with sleeves because I thought my arms were fat and horrible to look at. But my husband thinks my shoulders, arms, and back are really sexy and encourages me to wear sleeveless things now. It’s boosted my confidenced a ton!

  29. I know what you mean! A woman told me the other day that I appear a lot stronger than I look. I know she meant this as a compliment because we were taking Body Pump together and she was surprised to see me lifting so much weight for being rather small, but I was caught off guard. I didn’t know if I should thank her or tell her to bug off. LoL

  30. I cant think of a specific compliment but I do remember people saying things in general that effected me in a major way. Recently when someone told me they believed in me, and felt I could accomplish one of my aspirations (which I am kind of embarassed to mention here) meant a lot because I was having a lot of self-doubt.
    I love your attitude about your legs, strength and all the things they allow you to achieve. I am trying to reframe my negative self-talk like this as well!

  31. Yes! It sounds silly, but after school/before I began my career as an attorney I was worried about my hair color. It had been black for three years, but I wanted to go natural (light brown) because in my head it was more professional.
    This lasted a few months and I went back to black. Everyone at work loved it, as did my family and friends. They all said its more “you”. I don’t know why but I really did feel like “me” again. I suppose I didn’t realize it. Crazy!

  32. I’ve been getting that compliment recently as well, so I can totally understand. Even when I was “scrawny” in high school, I always had the legs (calves especially) of a foot soldier lol. I’m trying to appreciate how strong they are and realize that some people find them sexier than the dancer legs I wish I had.

  33. I have a huge booty…like Kim K big!

    I am not a fan of it AT ALL…I would much rather have a nice little TINY booty that fits nicely into jeans. My boyfriend said having a little “back” is good. Thank goodness for guys who like a little junk in the trunk.

  34. I was going to mention in your wedding post from the weekend that your legs looked really good in that dress you wore, but didn’t want to sound like a creep haha! So I agree with the participant in your class – you look really fit! 🙂

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