Happy (Cookie) Friday!
My day is off to a wonderful start. I enjoyed an early morning Ashtanga Yoga class, followed by a delightful bowl of pumpkin oats and a glass of iced coffee. In the oatmeal mix: oats, pumpkin, spelt flakes, ground flaxseed meal, soy milk, raisins, and peanut butter.
So delish! 😀
As you probably know, I am a HUGE fan of Ellen DeGeneres. I watch her show every single day and meeting her in person is on my Life’s To Do List.
The other day, Ellen chatted with Anderson Cooper about bullying. He shared some of his thoughts about where the problem lies (he cites the internet in particular) and what we can do to help. Here’s the video that Ellen posted her website: An Important Message from Ellen About Bullying. She talks specifically about teenage bullying, but bullying can hurt everyone– both young and old– and have lasting effects.
Almost two decades later, I still feel some of the effects of middle school bullying. I still struggle with my self-esteem and it takes a lot for me to “believe” that someone is truly my friend.
Growing up in a small town, there weren’t a lot of cliques: you were either “cool” or “not cool.” I don’t specifically remember being part of the “cool” group until my girlfriends “dumped” me and continued to bully me on and off throughout 5th and 6th grade. (Ali shares a very similar experience on her blog.) I’m not sure what I did to deserve it, but these girls made my life miserable. They talked behind my back, wrote mean notes, and started rumors about me. Apparently, I wasn’t as “cool” as I thought!
Middle school and junior high were a dark time in my life, but I learned early on who was a true friend and who was not. I remember crying to my mom after soccer practice with these girls and telling her that they “dumped” me and no longer wanted to be my friend. My mom told me they weren’t really my friends– and she was right.
After awhile, I stopped wishing to be part of their group and feeling badly about myself. I found my own circle of friends and stayed close with them through the end of high school.
I still struggle with questioning my friendships, but it gets easier everyday. Now-a-days, I have true friends that think I’m “cool,” no matter what.
Question of the Day
What are your thoughts on bullying? Where you ever bullied? What do you think can be done to make things better?
P.S. Ellen announced the KIND campaign to help end bullying. If you want to help, just text the word KIND to 85944 to donate $5. (Be sure to respond YES to confirm your donation.) The money supports The Trevor Project.