Mostly We Don’t Remember The Days; We Remember The Moments

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It’s never a dull day in the Haupert house!

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I live with the two biggest clowns ever.

So, I haven’t been totally truthful with you guys about my life lately. Not because I have something to hide, but after my ex passed away last summer, I’ve been hesitant to share the really personal details of my life. But, at my grandfather’s funeral on Monday morning, our priest used his sermon to emphasize that every moment of life is precious, and I wanted to remind us all of that.

Last Thursday morning, my grandfather passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly. He was only 81 years old and in good health. He still shoveled snow and mowed the lawn, he was constantly taking on new home improvement projects, and worked his part-time job of assessing houses. He was happy, healthy, and full of life. Even on the morning of his death, my Grampie woke up, drank his coffee, and read the sports section of the newspaper like he normally would. But, God had other plans for him, and he suffered a massive heart attack that he didn’t survive.

In the past 5 months, Mal and I have lost 4 people close to us, which has completely changed our perspective on life and living. Life is too short to be anything but happy and grateful. Today, please tell your family that you love them, hold your children tight, give your friends an extra hug (the next time you see them), and treasure every moment. You never know what’s going to happen, and God may choose to take away someone you love earlier than expected. The words just aren’t coming together for me this morning, but the point of this post is to remind you how precious and uncertain life truly is.

Sorry to give Friday such a sentimental start, but it’s something I’ve been wanting to share with you guys, and I think it’s a really important reminder for all of us. Every moment of life is precious.

Dinner

I felt super lazy last night, so I blew off CrossFit. I also didn’t feel like cooking, so I threw together a huge salad, topped with a can of tuna mixed with TJ’s salad, roasted Brussels sprouts, green olives, and balsamic vinegar.

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It was a really filling dinner.

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After dinner, I finished off the batch of Cherry-Walnut Almond Flour Cookies. There were five cookies left, and they had no chance against me.

Question of the Day

Tell me about a special moment that you experienced this week!

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168 Comments

  1. I’m so sorry Tina! Hugs and prayers to you and your family! You’re right, it is so important to tell family, friends, etc. how much you love and appreciate them, because you never know.

  2. i somehow had a feeling something wasn’t right recently… i’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather, tina. death is a hard thing to comprehend sometimes. it always comforts me to know that whoever it is that passed is most likely in a better place now. thank you for your reminder this morning to never take the people and relationships in your life for granted… so very true.

  3. I’m so sorry that you & Mal have lost so many loved ones in such a short amount of time. Life is short and I think that we all need to be reminded of that every so often.

    Murphy looks beat in that last photo!

  4. So sorry yours and Mal’s losses!

    Yes, every day is precious, not just our connections with others and the loved ones in our life but also our own lives. So often, we postpone living until the weekend or vacation or having met a deadline or achieved something, but, honestly, every day could be our last and we should make time every day to remind ourselves how precious and wonderful this day is.

  5. I’m terribly sorry to hear about your grandfather, as well as the other people close to you whom you’ve lost. My deepest condolences. Your post was beautiful, and absolutely correct – life is immensely valuable, and so fleeting. You can never tell someone you love them too much.

  6. I thought this was nicely worded and very touching. Special moment… This week I was discussing an upcoming trip I planned to take without my husband. I asked him if he minded (talking about money mostly) and he said “Of course I want you to go but of course I mind a little bit, it just doesn’t feel like home if you’re not here”. Thanks for the nice reminder, I’ll go call my mom now:)

  7. I’m so sorry for your loss. I, too, have gone through times in my life where I lost several people close to me but the only thing that got me through (with the help of friends and family) is my faith that one day I will see them again. It’s not goodbye it’s I’ll see you later.

  8. I’m so sorry for your loss Tina. I lost my grandfather 3 weeks ago today. He was only 76 and also in good health. I totally agree with living in the moment and being grateful for everything we have. Life is indeed way too short! Happy Friday 🙂

  9. I am so sorry for you loss Tina. You asked us to share a special moment that happened this week . . . .I think all time with my little boy (almost 6yrs) is special but it was super cute this morning when he poked his head around the corner in to the kitchen and said “Boo!” … I jumped and he was proud that he has scared me and told me that I didn’t even hear him coming. I told him he was right. He was in such a happy go-lucky mood – you cannot help but smile. It sure put me in a good mood too! Happy Friday!!!

  10. So sorry to hear about your grandfather, Tina! Thank you so much for the sentimental reminder to savor every moment. We need more reminders like this in our fast-paced lives! My boyfriend brought home a nasty stomach bug on Wed night. He woke up at 2 am puking his brains out. It didn’t stop until we got him to the Dr at 9 am where they had to replenish fluids with an IV. I got a touch of the bug, too. It’s the first time we’ve been sick like that together and I think it really brought us closer and made us appreciate the little things we do for each other, like making rice, potatoes, and toast (and cleaning up vomit… gross!).

  11. I am so sorry for your loss, Tina. He sounds like a wonderful sweet man. I loved your post. It is so true, we have to treat every day as a gift, tell friends and families how much we love them, smile to strangers, and live every day as it was your last. Take care….

  12. I’m so sorry for your loss. Any loss is difficult, but the sudden & unexpected are that much harder.

    For a happy moment, it has to be getting dinner with my high school girlfriends. I feel very lucky to have a large group of women I’ve stayed in touch with for the last 8 years since high school, and we make a point to get together as often as we can. Also, the countdown to my wedding is on… 6 months!

  13. I’m so sorry for your loss – grandparents are such special parts of our lives.

    A special moment for me this week was when my 19 year old called out of the blue from college to tell me that she loved me and give me an update on her life. I took seeing and hearing from her for granted when she was living at home but now i savor each time we chat. One of the best things about being a mom is watching how they turn out.

  14. This is such a great post Tina. Thank you so much for sharing this part of your life with us. I agree with every word you said. Time is just too short for us not to tell the people that we love that we love and care about them. I actually just lost my Papa a couple of months ago and can relate. He was a Marine in WWII and was at Iwo Jima. The Marine Corp honored him at his funeral and it was well deserved.
    Thanks again for sharing…:)

  15. Oh Tina I’m so sorry to hear it and I completely understand keeping personal things in – sometimes you need to heal first before you talk about it or share it.

    I love the message in this post – having lost my father only 3 years ago to lung cancer, it was a realization that I came to as well and it’s always nice to have a reminder that it’s important to appreciate every little moment!

  16. I am so sorry for all the losses you and Mal have experienced recently. You are right that we should embrace life 100%! My grandmother passed away a year ago and I am still having a hard time with it but on my most down days, I remember her love of life and how she would probably be MAD at me if she knew that I let her passing get me down and ruin or cloud any time I have with my family…I still think about her every single day though.

    Best moment this week was this monring when my 4 year old said “Mommy, I lovee you more than the whole world!”

  17. Tina –
    I’m sorry about your grandfather.

    When I got home from a business trip this week, I got the best hug from my son. He has autism, so he isn’t always great about displaying his emotions. A day later, he said, “Mom, I’m so glad you’re home now. I missed you when you were away.” That was huge! My favorite moment of this tough week.

  18. My sympathies to you and Mal for all your losses over the last few months. Loosing anyone, healthy or not, unexpectedly is terrible. Everyone needs to learn to appreciate everyone moment.

  19. So sorry for the loss of your grandpa. The message in your post is a great one to bring to your readers. Because I don’t love the place I spend 40 hours a week at, I often spend too many days cranky and whiny. I have been getting better, but your message is a good reminder that I need to spend my days happy and positive because life is too short.

  20. I’m so sorry about your grandfather. The sudden deaths I think are always the hardest. You’re in my thoughts and prayers.

    I couldn’t agree more with family being so important. I started a new job, and I haven’t seen my grandparents as much as I would like. Monday my grandmother and I went to get our nails done together. 🙂

  21. I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather, Tina! I lost my Memere two years ago and it was one of the hardest things to have to go through.

    Thank you, however, for turning this into something positive. We can all say “I love you” a little more, to the ones that mean so much. And we can all learn to appreciate the simple moments a little more too. Thanks for the reminder!

    Hugs and prayers!!!

  22. I’m so sorry about your loss. When I was spending time with my grandparents about a year ago, I was watching them slow dance at a party as I cried and thought about how they are getting older and I would one day lose them. I just couldn’t bare it. It’s okay to be upset about your grandpa; your blog readers will always be here to comfort you!

    I learned that lesson, to cherish each day, at a young age because my brother passed away 7 almost years ago when I was 14.

  23. Life is truly like a fragile glass at times. It’s precious, breakable, and must be treated with care at all times. I’m sorry you guys have been to going through such hard times lately <3

  24. Tina – I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Living life to the fullest, not sweating the small stuff, and cherishing those you love is always a welcomed reminder. My thoughts are with you.

  25. Thank you for sharing. I know I always try to keep my posts upbeat, but life happens and things are not always easy. Again, thank you for letting us know what is really going on in your life.

  26. I am sorry for the losses you and your family have suffered, Tina. Thank you for sharing your personal stories and wisdom. Your blog is a source of joy and a wonderful example of how to live this precious life being good to your body and mind and to others around you. I feel that when we lose someone close the best thing we can hope to do is to be better and live better in honor of their life, emulate the best of them, talk about them, remember them, thank God for them. Love and prayers to you Tina.

  27. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather, Tina. I hope that you are doing okay and healing…remember the good times you had with him and know that he is in a much better place now!

  28. Hello,

    The other day I was enlighten by a sentence of Pablo Neruda:

    “If nothing can save us from death, at least love can save us from life”

  29. I am happy you felt like you were ready to share that with us. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    Sometimes it takes moments like this to give us a ‘reality’ check about what makes life good and how every moment is special. My dad always says ‘treat the present like a present’!

  30. Sorry for your loss. It’s especially difficult to stay strong when so many people pass away in such a short amount of time. Every moment IS precious and it’s good to take a step back and reflect, and think about that. I really do think everything happens for a reason, even though sometimes it takes a while to figure out what that reason was. Hang in there.

  31. I’m so sorry for your loss. Your post reminded me that my grandparents were taken away from me too soon when I was very young. I wish I could have spent many more years with them. You were very lucky to have had such a happy and healthy grandpa who you were able to share so much time with.
    Thank you for the nudge to appreciate and love family. Life is indeed to short to ever forget that. My condolences. <3

  32. I’m very sorry for your loss Tina. It is certainly moments like a death in the family that remind you what really matters and how precious life really is. It’s an excellent reminder and I’m glad you decided to share! Keep your chin up. xo

  33. Those first couple of pictures are great!

    I am so sorry about your losses. And you definitely got your point across – you made me tear up! A special moment definitely happened for me, too, this week: my grandpa went to the Cardio ICU on Tuesday night after his heart rate dipped to low. They had to use the paddles on him, and, long story short, it’s a miracle he’s alive. It made me, too, realize how short and special life is.

    Thanks for such a great post.

  34. Awwh Teen, so sorry to hear. Hope you and your family are able to celebrate the lives lost through the beautiful memories you do have. You are right, life is extremely precious. xo Erin

  35. Tina – my deepest condolences to you and your family for the loss of your grandfather and others near and dear to your heart. Life is something we too often take for granted. We never know when it will be taken from us.

    On a happier note – Mal and Murphy look like they are having too good of a time!

  36. So sorry to hear about your grandfather. I lost my grandmother last week as well. For my family, we knew it was coming because she had been sick for some time. Still, it’s hard. And you’re right, it’s times like these we need to sit back, put life in perspective, and appreciate what really matters. I hope your heart is warmed by all the wonderful memories of him and his life.

  37. So sorry for your loss. You are so right and it was the same thoughts I was having this morning as I was getting ready for work. I just lost a very dear friend suddenly and it brings so much into perspective.

    My special moment was visiting my friends widow, so heartbreaking but also heartwarming to see how strong she is. She also was sweet enough to share with me our friends daily devotional calendar he had in his bathroom. It meant so much to him and I loved reading it every time we were there. It means the world to me that she parted with it and I now have it to enjoy and remember him with every day.

    Hope your day is filled with smiles and many great memories of those you have lost.

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