Let’s Talk About Bathing Suits

Mastermind Weekend 1/16

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Good morning! ๐Ÿ˜Ž

After yesterday’s eating debacle, I started my morning with a more “balanced” breakfast: one egg over easy with melted cheddar on two pieces of toasted Ezekiel bread and half of an apple on the side.


The meal was very satisfying and didn’t leave me craving something else… like cake, for instance.


I also drank some Birthday Cake iced coffee with soy milk with breakfast. (There may or may not be an awesome coffee promo next week on CNC in honor of someone’s 30th birthday! ๐Ÿ˜‰ )


Bathing Suit Body Confidence

So, I haven’t worn a bathing suit in almost 2 years. Not because I don’t want to, but because I haven’t had a chance. The weather was terrible in Boston last summer, so there was no reason to wear one. (Some people, like my husband, say we had nice weather last summer, but if you worked in an office from 9-5, Monday – Friday, there was zero bathing suit-worthy weather on the weekends. Worst summer ever. ๐Ÿ˜• ) The winter, of course, didn’t provide any options to get into a bathing suit either.

So, now I am gearing-up to wear a bathing suit (for the first time in 2 years) this coming weekend. I’m not necessarily looking forward to it, but I’m not dreading it either. Since January, I’ve been toning up and staying in shape, so I feel pretty good about myself, but I’ve never been the type of person to who is totally confident wearing a bathing suit. (I guess living in a place that only sees “bathing suit weather” for 3 months out of the year makes it tough, too.)ย I act like I feel good in a bathing suit, but I’m always reluctant to strip down. The idea of “fake it to ya make it” usually works for me, but I still feel the need to cover up. I’m sure I’m not alone in this feeling.


Feel Great Weight

Are you dreading shopping for a new bathing suit this year? Check out my newest FGW post: Hate Buying a Bathing Suit? 4 Feel-Good Shopping Strategies.

Question of the Day

How do you feel about wearing a bathing suit in public? Where does your body confidence come from?

P.S. Murphy wants you to check out his blog post about homemade dog toys! ๐Ÿ˜€



  1. I am definitely self conscious in a bathing suit. Fake it till you make it is what I do as well because I wont let it ruin my day.

  2. In general, I feel pretty naked wearing a bathing suit becuase, well, it’s like wearing a bra and undies in public. Last year I had a rockin’ bikini bod but this year I gained oh, like a million punds and look 12 months pregnant so there is no way in hell I am putting on a bathing suit this year.

  3. I am with Nicole at #5 and Kris at #42 – I am living in Brazil now and Brazilians have such a different attitude about body image. Everyone (and I mean EVERYONE – fat, thin, old, young, EVERYONE) wears a bikini here (or a speedo for men). And nobody bats an eye – Because they just accept that their body looks the way it does and it is no big deal. So a little weight loss on my part and trying to just accept that my body is what it is and it is just a normal part of going to the beach…no big deal to anyone else there…has really gotten my comfortable in a bathing suit for the first time in my life.

    Even back in the states I try to remember that only my friends and strangers see me in a bathing suit. My friends will love me no matter what I look like in a bathing suit and it doesn’t matter what strangers think of me in a bathing suit!

  4. Swim suits can be dreadful for us ladies…for so many reasons.

    Ultimately the first step in feeling confident is finding a suit that is truly made to flatter your figure. For so many of us (most of us), the designs immediately found on the racks don’t really work! It takes some picking and searching. ๐Ÿ™‚

    And then…the confidence. That comes from a desire to love you as you! And embracing your body and everything it is. But that is a process.

  5. Being as I am 41 and have had 3 kids, there are certain parts of me that only surgery can fix,:) but as far as swimsuits, I like my upper half, so a cute bikini top is great but finding a swimskirt that covers what needs to be covered and cute is hard to do, so I ususally end up with cute board shorts. I live in CA and you have to be in a swimsuit at least a few times every summer.

  6. I’ve never been super confident an a bathing suit either, but once I’m outside having fun, swimming, relaxing, etc it don’t even think about what I look like. The only time I really think about how I look in the suit it when I’m trying them on.

    I think the key is to find a good fitting suit so your not tugging or fixing it all day long.

  7. One of my most awkward experiences was teaching swimming to my 5 to 16-year-old students in Korea last summer–which basically meant doing aqua aerobics in front of the entire group, then playing in the pool for a few hours. I wore a bikini top and shorts because I was way too uncomfortable totally stripping down.

  8. I feel confident, for the most part. Sometimes it feels weird at first, but I don’t wear a swimsuit all that often either (live in Chicago)… however, after a minute or two I feel comfortable. The key is to find the right suit. For me, that means one that’s going to keep my “girls” in place!

  9. i am SO SO SO self conscious in bathing suits. i just don’t wear them… haven’t bough a new one since high school! that’s gotta change.

  10. i’m definitely really self-conscious in really anything that’s slightly revealing right now…but last year around this time i was in the Caribbean with my husband’s side of the family, and after about 30 minutes of being a lame-ass about it, i felt comfortable and lived in my suit the rest of the trip! my self-confidence at this point in time comes from knowing that i know how to eat well and workout, and even if i don’t do those things one day, it won’t kill me ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. Honestly…if I looked like you I would probably feel pretty confidant in a bathing suit lol..You really need to know that you look amazing. There are some of us out there that need to do much more then just tone and its gonna be a long haul for us! So PLEASE .. since you can…feel confidant and rock out your bathing suit!

  12. I actually feel fine about wearing a bathing suit. There are lots of people that must look way better than me and lots that may look worse. So who cares! Just like I’d wear shorts and a tshirt to work-out, I am in my bathing suit to enjoy the sun and water. No need to ruin my day by feeling self conscious ๐Ÿ™‚

  13. Tina,
    I don’t do bathing suits either.The only time I have worn one in the past YEARS is when I restrict myself so much that I feel awful. I liked this post. I think its important to remember that IT IS OKAY to be self-conscious in a swimsuit. Ironically, I feel comfortable asserting my choice to wear a one-piece or cover-up but don’t feel assertive/confident enough to just wear the normal suit! But I would rather go to the beach in a cover-up than not go at all, as I have done in years past.

    I do wear a swimsuit almost every day to swim laps though :). But that is a little different…

    I do think its important to find the right suit. I do have one that I think flatters me. I have a small chest so triangle tops dont work on me either for a different reason!

  14. Ok…is it me or do bathing suits just highlight personal flaws? I KNOW that is not their intent but yeesh..my thighs look LARGER and tummy flubbier. Is flubbier a word?

    Gah…it’s stressful shopping for a bathing suit. This from the girl who works out like a maniac daily AND eats strict.


  15. LOL @Katie #64— i totally agree that its totally easier to look good naked than anything else…its the clothes that we women put on that make us feel self-conscious!

  16. I am NOT a fan of bathing suits, and never, ever have been! I do have a pretty good amount of body confidence and work hard to stay toned and in shape, but bathing suits, no matter how awesome your body, are always a little…traumatic. (I think I’m mostly concerned over my snow-white skin–I seriously stand out like a torch on the beach, I’m convinced!)

  17. I know I don’t look great in a bathing suit, but I am usually pretty confident. I figure why waste my time hiding my flaws when I could be swimming/tanning/playing frisbee etc etc etc.

    At the same time, I *know* I don’t look as good as my friends, but I think I have come to terms with it.

  18. I know that I’ll never look perfect in a bathing suit, so for that reason I’m kind of cool with wearing one in public. I don’t feel the pressure to be perfect, yet I know I’m not hurting people’s eyes either. I’m just there. Sometimes though, when I’m laying in it or walking around people I don’t know it weirds me out because it’s basically like wearing a bra and panties in front of strangers, haha.

  19. I am definitely not one of those people with innate body confidence. I have a belly that shows itself to the world when I sport a bikini. I have large, muscular thighs with cellulite. I have big boobs that I worry about covering up fully. I am never going to be one of those graceful, slender model types, but I’ve found that if I distract myself from obsessing about my body’s flaws by actually doing stuff at the beach, I find confidence in my own happiness and strength. My favorite thing to do is snorkeling! I’ll be in a bikini all-day long if it gives me the opportunity to swim around and see amazing coral reefs and beautiful fish. As long as I keep active at the beach, I feel better about the whole swimsuit thing.

  20. since losing all the weight i put on after i stopped bingeing, i haven’t had “the opportunity” to wear a bathing suit at all so i haven’t gone shopping for one. i feel like i’ve come to tems with my body – i still was comfortable with it when i was 20-30 pounds heavier, so i don’t imagine it’ll bring me much anxiety, but then again, you never know….

  21. The sesame noodle recipe looks great. I make something very similar and would suggest adding broccoli as well, it gives a nice crunch, added vegetables and still tastes delicious!

  22. I like to tell myself, “you know what, this is who I am. Take it or leave it.”

    It’s not worth waiting for that perfect body, because honestly, how many people feel 100% satisfied with every part of them? If you have inner confidence, it will shine through and THAT is what people will see.

    Besides, I’m proud of my thunder thighs. They’re strong and can do amazing things. What’s to hate about that? ๐Ÿ˜€

    Great post and question, Tina!

  23. Honestly, spray tans are where my confidence comes from. (And a good wax.) Haha. It makes all the difference and I highly recommend it. (Just do it a couple of days in advance.) But btw, if I looked like you, I probably wouldn’t have any confidence issues!

  24. Although I completely lack any self-confidence and I don’t like my body, I don’t mind wearing bathing suits in public. When it’s so hot, I just put it on and enjoy the heat ๐Ÿ™‚

  25. It’s kind of strange, but I don’t think I am very happy with my body and I have my own image issues, but I don’t have much of a problem stripping down into my suit. I think it’s from years of being in swim teams and having a pool during my childhood. When I strip down into my suit, I only have one thing in mind: getting in the water to play! I’m actually more self-conscious in my normal day-to-day wear where I’m at a social gathering.

  26. Even at 250 pounds I was confident in a swimsuit. I’ve never really been self-conscious of that. I’ve never worn a bikini though and I don’t think I’d wear one–even at the weight I’m at currently.

  27. I understand that feeling and am a firm believer in paying attention to what you love most about yourself . . . cause honestly, that’s what most other people do. First of all, when I’m on the beach, I am enjoying the warmth and the waves and having fun and being with the people I love. When I do notice other people, I’m only noticing the great things, like, wow, awesome suit, or nice muscles, or something along those lines. I have no reason to look at others and judge them, and I assume that others aren’t judging me. And even if they are, what would be the motivation behind that? A sad one, for sure! When I’m in my suit, I’m playing and laughing like when I was a little girl making sandcastles on the beach, and that’s much more enjoyable than worrying about what I look like in my suit. ๐Ÿ™‚

  28. I WISH I could remember the name of the book, but, I read this review one time and the author talked about how she didn’t have the confidence to wear a two-piece until she was 30. She had so much regret that she let poor body image get her down and keep her from having fun in a bikini while she was young. That really stuck with me. Bikinis are FUN – sun is fun, and life is meant to be lived! Don’t let negative pressure take that away.

  29. I feel confident wearing a bathing suit in public because I feel confident in myself and my body. My confidence comes from taking the best care of myself (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.) that I can. Plus, I want to be an example of a woman who is comfortable in her skin. It helps to get a suit that you feel comfortable in, too. I have a black tankini from L.L. Bean that I absolutely love.

  30. I’ve never had a lot of confidence in a bathing suit, but it has gotten better over the years (I’m only 20 though, so we’ll see!). For the most part, my insecurities about hanging out in a swimsuit are because I’m a redhead with freckles — aka super duper pale. I usually laugh it off with my friends, and crack a few jokes about working as a reflector to enhance their tans, but it is something that I feel really self-conscious about.
    I think it’s just one of those things we go through though, and with time I think I’ll feel better.

  31. I don’t think anyone is really a fan of themself in a bathing suit….. I could be wrong though. I do what I can to stay in shape, be healthy and look good. I don’t want to starve myself therefore I have a little extra here and there, oh well. I love swimming and I love going to the beach, so I focus on that and just try to find the most flattering suit I can to get me by. I also shouldn’t tan, but tans can hide or mask imperfections….. so I do the gradual tan moisturizers or get a spray tan, that definitely helps my confidence!

  32. I go back and forth on wearing my bathing suit in public…some days I feel great, some days not so great. But I think everyone has those same problems. Being in a college town though is tough because there are always tons of other girls out at the pool to compare yourself too, and even though I try not to it happens. I just try to focus on myself and feel good about myself to build confidence.

  33. I have scars that show in a bathing suit that I don’t like questions about so I usually end up wearing a cover up. And even after losing 100+ pounds I have other problems like floppy skin so I don’t feel comfortable. But I break it out about once or twice a year and pretend no one else can see except Hunni who loves the way I look in it. Might have something to do with the fact that I get one that is cut nice for the uh “top”.

  34. last summer was the first time in awhile that I felt comfortable enough in a bathing suit to have pictures taken in it. I’m not as confident this year because I haven’t been able to run as much, but hopefully I’ll still feel alright.

  35. I have never felt confident in a bathing suit, and it always took a lot of effort to try to cover myself up every time I had to walk from the pool to the bathroom, or other cases like that.

    When I moved to Florida 5 years ago, I told myself that although I still don’t feel confident in a bathing suit, I was just going to suck it up and not stress about always being covered up. It’s really been life-changing to have this new attitude and just go with it. I can now play sand volleyball in my bikini for hours at a time, and it doesn’t bother me! I also now walk from my spot on the beach to the beachhouse bathrooms without covering up ๐Ÿ™‚

  36. I absolutely HATE wearing a bathing suit! I have never felt very confident in one even though I know I have a healthy, fit body. Other people tell me I look okay, but I just don’t see it. I think it’s hard for anyone to feel 100% confident about themselves so overly exposed.

  37. I am my lowest weight since about junior high school and I wear a size 2 I also work for Weight Watchers so being healthy is top priority for me but the thought of wearing a two piece bathing suit scares me to death. I have 3 kids and I hate the loose stomach look, no amount of crunches will take away that extra skin, yuck! Your posts are so inspiring! Rock that bathing suit, you are young and beautiful. I plan on wearing my tankinis and building lots of sand castles with my babies and chasing them around the pool, that counts as working out right?! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  38. I think it’s interesting to read about how many women feel uncomfortable in bathing suits. I mean, I certainly don’t love lounging around in one myself, but it’s almost comforting to know that lots of others feel the same way too.

  39. I have always felt self-conscious in a bathing, even though I know my weight is good and I work out. I think they are just so revealing and since 99% of the time you don’t have to flaunt your “assets” it can be intimidating. I wish I could be more confident though!

  40. I think the key to feeling comfortable is buying the right suit. You first need to honest about what kind of body you have and what section to shop in. At a curvy 14, should I be looking at the string bikinis in the juniors section? No, I should be charging over to the misses section were the suits with underwire live. I just always take comfort in the fact that I’m not the biggest person on the beach. And men, please don’t wear speedos ๐Ÿ™‚

  41. I feel completely comfortable wearing a bathing suit in public. I eat really healthy and work out most days of the week so I know that I look my best and healthiest. Plus, this is the time to flaunt what I’ve got because I’m young, I haven’t had children yet, etc.

  42. I was on a swim team from age 8 through high school, so I literally lived in a swim suit all summer long. Once I got to high school, I was always in shock at how many people were super embarassed to walk around in a swim suit. However, I didn’t start wearing bikinis until college. At first I was super uncomfortable with my stomach showing, however I gradually got better about walking around. You know how some people are more comfortable in shorts & bikini top or a shirt & swim suit bottoms? I’m definitely more comfortable walking around with a shirt on and no shorts. But I definitely thank swim team for my bathing suit confidence!

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