When You Get Sick of Your Own Sh*t

Excuse Girl” strikes again! [insert eye roll emoji]

On my way home from Stowe on Tuesday afternoon, I told Mal something along the lines of “I wish I could eat like that all the time” with regard to the meals that we enjoyed at Stowe Mountain Lodge. The food was truly amazing—fresh (often local), interesting (so many incredible flavor combinations), and healthy (not oversized or loaded with oil and salt). Basically, the resort made it easy to eat well, and I really appreciated and enjoyed it. I also felt much more in control and balanced when making my food choices. I splurged (hello, truffle fries and wine), but I didn’t go overboard and mainly stuck to a healthy diet. Usually, I feel kind of blah after an overindulgent vacation, but this one was different. I felt really good heading home.

Ok, so back to Excuse Girl…

Mal never lets me get away with anything – I say this lovingly because he makes me a better person— and replied to my “I wish I could eat like that all the time” statement with simply: “Why can’t you?” I immediately started reeling off reasons why it was too difficult. Of course, I had sooooooo many excuses and then Mal reminded me of a conversation that we had prior to that. It was one of those “woe is me” talks where I just complained the entire time about how I’ve let myself go/gained weight/have no time to exercise/blah blah blah… Long story short, Mal (nicely) reminded me of this, and, coupled with my comment about wanting to eat better, it was obvious that it was time to stop being Excuse Girl and get my act together. I actually kind of laughed when I realized just how full of sh*t my excuses were. If you don’t like something about yourself, change it and that’s exactly what I’m doing – and using CNC for the extra accountability, so thanks, guys! 🙂

Turning over a new leaf!

On Wednesday morning, I woke up bright and early to take the 5:15 AM class at Salt Shack – and I have to admit, it really wasn’t all that bad. I actually enjoyed the drive to the gym (the sky was so pretty) and, once I was moving, it didn’t feel like an early-morning class.

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I can’t say I had the best workout of my life (I didn’t eat anything before class, so my stomach was kind of queasy), but I got my sweat on and started my day off on the right foot. I’m not planning to work out every morning at 5:15 AM, but I will definitely pop into a class or two each week. No excuses!

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Back at home, I whipped up a quick recovery smoothie (Oikos Triple Zero Coconut Cream + SFH Churro + almond milk) and drank it while taking Murphy for a walk.

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So handsome.

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After that, I hopped in the shower, got ready for the day, and said goodbye to my boys. (I had a busy day ahead, so Mal offered to take Qman to school.) After our vaca, we didn’t have a ton of healthy food in the house, so I did my best to pack a nutritious breakfast and lunch. No excuses!

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Breakfast: Quaker Overnight Oats with a big scoop of Teddie Peanut Butter.

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Lunch: Banza Chickpea Mac & Cheese mixed with frozen chopped spinach – so good!

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Snack: Roasted Kale Chips (purchased from Starbucks).

I spent alllllllll day at Starbucks – seriously, my butt was numb by the time I left. After that, I swung by Trader Joe’s to stock up on some healthy eats.

And, of course, I needed to grab a snack for the road. I love Trader Joe’s “just Beets.”

For dinner, I saute some celery, carrots, and onions.

And then mixed it with a jar of cowboy caviar. I served it over white rice with a scoop of guacamole on top, and, my goodness, it was delicious!

After dinner, Mal put Quinn to bed while I cleaned up the house. (Kerrie and I have a video shoot the next day for Designed to Fit.)

Then, we watched Big Brother! (Yes, it’s still on and people still watch it. Haha!) Mal and I are total super fans – and we were especially excited to see Christmas Abbott competing this year. (She’s a CrossFitter.) While watching, I had some chocolate-covered cashews, but I actually measured out one serving (using my food scale) instead of eating 6 million of them like I usually do. No excuses!

Question of the Day

How do you get yourself out of a rut?

Anyone else watching Big Brother this year?

37 Comments

  1. I love early morning workouts! I was doing 5am OTF workouts until I hit 27 weeks pregnant. I cannot wait to get back to them post partum this Fall because I feel like they set me up for a much better day physically and mentally! So kudos to you for getting to the 515am, it really is a great habit to get into!

    I feel like my early morning workouts set me up for success for the day in terms of food choices too. I felt healthy and strong after a workout and I wanted to keep that momentum going by fueling my body with healthy choices. But if I did have something not so healthy I also didn’t feel so bad about it because I had worked out!

    I don’t watch much tv these days except House Hunters on DVR, lol.

  2. I think the idea that people should “stop whining” or “stop making excuses” shuts down conversation and exploration of what might really be a problem in the person’s life. The “just do it” culture is false and troubling to me. It’s not a very human perspective on problems we face.

    Sometimes, I find when I’m feeling like you feel, it’s about a change in my life. I might be “whining” or feeling low or even guilty because my priorities are shifting. I’ve found that the answer isn’t always to go back to my old priorities. Sometimes, we feel guilty for not living up to certain artificial standards–especially when it comes to women’s bodies. You are definitely healthy and fit, even if your body isn’t exactly as it used to be!

    Maybe your priorities are just shifting. It’s worth exploring more deeply, and it can be okay to let old priorities go in favor of new ones. Sometimes what we’re really saying when we say “why can’t I have what I want” is “I feel weird about not wanting that anymore, and I’m not sure what to do now.”

    I think deep reflection and conversation about what one is thinking and feeling and why are so helpful in seeing where problems really lie. I hope there’s plenty of this in your life!

    1. Totally agree. Mal and I talked a lot about shifting priorities and we determined that I barely focus any time on myself anymore, so I want to make an effort on doing things that make me feel good, like eating healthy and exercising! 🙂

    2. @Becca:

      Becca, I was thinking the same thing but you said it much better than I would have!

      I used to be an avid runner but have really cut back since my son was born 18 months ago. And I used to beat myself up over it and try to make myself get up early to run but the truth is, my priorities have shifted and if I’m honest with myself it’s just not that important to me anymore. I’d rather sleep!! And spend time with my son. I work full time and only see him a few hours a night. There might be a season of my life where running becomes important to me again, but right now I’m just letting it go.

      This article really resonated with me: https://nosidebar.com/mediocre-life/
      Sometimes you need to let go of trying to constantly strive for improvement and just enjoy life.

  3. I think it’s great that you and Mal have the type of relationship where he lovingly reminds you that excuses shouldn’t stop you from accomplishing your goals. I am a healthy eater and exercise often, but I also find myself in ruts sometimes. I think the first step is just realizing that I’m in a rut. And the second step is wanting to get out of it badly enough to actually do something about it. So way to go getting those early morning workouts in! And thanks for being so open and sharing your struggles/feelings with your readers!

  4. Oh man, I’m with you this week. I just asked my run coach for a new marathon training plan and once I got it back, I spent about 3 days complaining about it to myself. It just seemed so hard and I thought I was crazy for wanting to do this again with so much else going on. But then I had a get real moment, reminded myself that I want to do this, and a PR in November will be worth the sacrifices now. Then I woke up early this morning and crushed a tempo run! Sometimes you just gotta get over yourself and get out there and do it haha.

  5. Tina I’m with you girl. I’ve been slacking lately and this week I decided no more excuses. I wish I didn’t have to think so much about food choices but I do and I know I will always have to. You have the tools and knowledge to get back in the swing of things and I know you can do it and so can I. Good luck 🙂

  6. I am struggling with the nutrition part myself. back in april I joined burn boot camp and have been doing 445 a.m. workouts 3-5 days a week. I love my early morning workouts because I can get it out of the way and it really makes me a better mom in the mornings. however iust kep eating not great foods so i’m not seeing the progress i’d like. I make excuses and eat what is quick and easy more often then not. here is to using your awesome post as inspiration for myself.

  7. These kinds of posts always pop up at the best time. I think it’s awesome to have someone like your husband to hold you accountable — mine does too. Thanks for the motivation!

  8. Excuses are so easy. I love how honest you are. I think so many people tend to show the good stuff but not the hard things they’re dealing with. That rawness is what sets you apart from others and why I love reading your blog.

  9. I love this…thank you!! I often find my biggest obstacle to getting what I want (whether it be health and fitness, career, family related) is just myself! Of course we all know this, but it’s a great reminder to hear sometimes! And to know that other people do it too 🙂

  10. I totally hear ya! The past 6 months or so my migraines have been awful again. Migraine days would = no workout + all the junky carbs. (It’s almost like morning sickness, I’m nauseated unless I’m eating starches.) Lately though, I’ve been so sick of my own sh*t, as you put it. So if my migraine is in the morning and I’m better by the end of my work day I go to the gym. It’s definitely not a PR workout but it sure beats sitting on my couch! And I’m back to logging in myfitnesspal. Last night was a bad one but I made sure to actually log what I ate and kept my portions in check. I still munched on dry cereal and a grilled cheese so my macros were way off but I only went over on calories a little.

  11. My boyfriend is like Mal, and I’m the same way for him. It works for us. While there are times to really sit down and assess the root of why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling, it’s also equally as important to step up to the plate and take the reigns on your life.

    I recently started a new job, so I’m back to the early morning workouts at 5am. I can be a PILL, but my boyfriend just says, “Get up and let’s do this,” or “You’ll be able to enjoy your evenings,” and I’m up!

    Holding ourselves accountable can be a full-time job, and it’s nice when your partner is a *partner* and is there for you to uplift and help out. 🙂

    http://www.poweredbysass.com

  12. Nice job getting to your workout and sticking to your goals! It is nice to have a partner that will (lovingly) call you out as well. I tend to make a lot of excuses when I am stressed and this a nice reminder to knock it off. Thanks!

  13. Yesss! My husb and I watch BB too and I was so stoked to see Christmas on there! I think my husband now wants her voted off just because I go nuts every time I see her.

  14. I finally tried SFH pure and got the chocolate flavor. I’m not super picky but I reallly don’t enjoy it. The after taste is pretty gross :/ just wondering if the vanilla or churro are better or maybe this brand is just not for me me?! Thanks for your insight!

  15. There’s definitely an art to knowing when you are just making excuses vs. when you’re priorities have truly shifted or maybe what you were doing/want to do are unrealistic.

    I try to set small, realistic goals to make sure they are achievable and help me build momentum.

  16. Being a mom and working is HARD. I’m lucky that I have the summers off but I find putting myself first is just as difficult then. My boys are 2 and 3. They need me more than I need something else. I still get activity in, but I’m not logging 2 hours in the gym 6 days a week anymore. I’m very focused on my family’s diet though and that has made a world of difference.

  17. My husband helps me get out of ruts! He won’t take any excuses from me and makes me mad enough to go do something about it!! Haha gotta love him 🙂

  18. Yes I watch BB and sat through all 2 hours last night. Every summer I say I won’t watch it because it’s 3 hours a week and every summer I get sucked right back in. Sometimes you just need some mindless entertainment.

  19. This post has made me reflect on the “full plate” mentality epidemic. We want to do it all and have it all and be all to everyone. It’s a constant chase after the impressive bucket lists and the “full life” viewpoint. It probably isn’t that your priorities have changed. You may want to live a health-focused lifestyle. Most of us visiting your blog desire this for ourselves. But, is there enough time and energy to do all? To work, raise children, laundry, healthy eating, coupon cutting, cleaning of the house, car, said children, entertaining, celebrating, exercising, traveling, writing personal thank you notes, volunteering, recycling, walking the dogs, dealing with a chronic illness, the lists we have go on and on.
    Something has to give. Pick some and put the others aside. If you want your cake and eat it too, you will sacrifice your sanity and contentment . And nothing is more important than that.

  20. Asan avid 5:30 am CrossFitter, I’ve found that eating a Fuel for Fire on the way to the gym (I like the Tropical flavor) helps fuel me through a WOD without making me feel heavy or queasy.

  21. Isn’t it so nice to have someone (lovingly) call you out?! A gentle reminder that I’m my own worst enemy and biggest enabler can seriously help get me back on track and quit wallowing in my own excuses.

    When I’m slacking it’s my own fault. But on the flip side, when I’m killing it, that’s all me too :).

  22. Such a great post! So funny because my husband does the SAME thing. No pity parties in this house. Looks like you took action….feels so good!

    How are those Quakers overnight oats? Been keeping my eye out for them.

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