Getting out of bed was really rough this morning. I stayed up to watch the crazy chicks on The Bachelor, so now I am totally exhausted. I need to start going to bed earlier.
Today’s breakfast was mushy mess of oats, quinoa, canned pumpkin, banana, and ground flaxseed meal with a big scoop of peanut butter. It was very filling.
On the side, I enjoyed a glass of iced coffee with soy milk.
Disclaimer: If you are currently struggling with an eating disorder or in recovery, and weight is a sensitive issue or may trigger you, please skip the rest of this post.
The other day, while peddling along on the elliptical, I stumbled upon an article in this month’s SELF magazine called “Your Mother, Your Weight,” which explores how mothers influence their daughter’s attitude toward their bodies. SELF asked mothers and daughters from three families to share their body gripes and insights. They prove that the ties that bind go far beyond blood connections.
The article made me think about my own relationship with my mother and how she influenced the way I feel about my body. Overall, my mom had a very positive affect on my attitude toward my weight and body image. I’m sure my sister would say the exact same thing.
Growing up, my mom never really talked about her weight. Frankly, she had more important things to worry about, like paying bills and putting food on the table. Plus, both of her jobs (cashiering and cleaning cars) kept her on her feet all day long, so she didn’t really need to worry about it. I mean, she moved nonstop from the time she woke up to the time she went to bed. My mom was probably too tired to care about her weight!
As a family, we never openly talked about weight or body image, but here are some lessons that I learned from my mom:
- Eat based on what your body craves. My mom said she never really worried about what my sister and I ate as kids. Even though we ate plenty of junk food—Pop Tarts, Little Debbie Snacks, and TV dinners— my mom never criticized our choices. She trusted that we’d eat based on our cravings and set a good example for us. If my mom wanted to snack on some tomato slices, she would. If she wanted a bowl of ice cream, she’d go right ahead. My sister and I observed my mom’s eating habits and emulated them.
- Eat based on what makes you happy. Dessert makes my mom happy, so she enjoyed (and still enjoys) it almost every day. Clearly, I’ve adopted this habit from her. Life is too short not to enjoy dessert.
- Appreciate your body’s athleticism. Growing up, soccer was a huge part of my family’s life. My sister and I played from the time we were in elementary school until we graduated from high school. My mom was always at our games to congratulate us and praise us for our hard work. Being able to perform well on the field was much more important to her than being a certain size.
Question of the Day
Did your mother influence the way you feel about your body?